Wednesday, June 16, 2021
Years ago, I remember traveling on vacation with friends to a cabin in western, North Carolina during a snowstorm. It was in the days before GPS, and we were driving along a remote, mountain road going in the “right” direction. It wasn’t until we saw the “Welcome To Tennessee” sign on the side of the road, that we suddenly realized that we’d missed our exit, hours back. Prior to that road sign’s humiliating revelation, we were as happy as could be, chatting away, cheerfully enjoying the journey.
The sensation of being wrong can never be fully known, in real time. You have to be shown the correct way, or to suddenly realize your mistake before you can ever know what being wrong is actually about. In other words, being wrong is a retrospective phenomenon, not a proactive one. No one knows that they are wrong, until they realize what’s right.
The moment you realize that you’ve made a mistake, you have two options. You can make that moment an “uh-oh” moment, or you can take full responsibly of your action, own up to it, and turn it into an “ah-ha!” moment. Each and every choice that you make in your life can be seen as an unwanted consequence; a desired result; or a valuable lesson. Those who see results and learn lessons grow and mature. Through this process, they hone in their intuitive ability to make better decisions in life. Those who see choices as consequences, fall into playing the roll of the victim. The victory, so to speak, comes in owning up to what poor decisions you’ve made, but also in letting go of the discomfort once you’ve had your “ah-ha” moment. Once you’ve realized that you’ve erred, ask others for forgiveness, when necessary. But always forgive yourself for not paying closer attention to what it is your inner being really wants. Being wrong is not the end of the world – it’s just the beginning, the new segment of time that opens your eyes to more possibility. Rather than brooding in the regret of your “uh-oh’s,” let your life be more full of “ah-ha” moments and open up to the wonders of learning, growing, and maturing.