Saturday, June 6, 2026
When solitude and silence are welcomed, not as a tool nor as a means to gain, a budding of truth has transpired. Most of us do whatever we can to avoid this unfamiliar state – stillness and quiet, sitting with and by yourself, your thoughts, and your own pulse caressing in your ear.
Those who migrate towards this kind of solitary confinement are seen as recluses who do “strange things” like sit there. What a poor sap, they think. But if you’ve given yourself this profound gift, you are in for a treat. You will gain insight and understanding, deep peace, and distance from others will naturally take its course. You will no longer feel obligated to socialize, you will do so as it pleases you.
Relationships with others who are at peace within themselves will arise from out of this state. It won’t be because you have sought them. It’s just the organic nature, wonderful things arising out of stillness. These rare relationships sprout without chasing.
What you saw as social bonding was merely two people talking about nothing of real meaning or truth. Socializing was done as a superficial need for approval. People cannot shut up if there is silence. It’s far too “awkward.”
You may have overcome awkward silence and realized it’s not awkward at all, but euphoric and inviting. To welcome the understanding of who you are, you open the gates of stillness, or rather, they open in you.
There is no more craving of love or attention or approval or the so-called company of others. You’ll have recognized that self and other are one, and if another has realized this too, a real soulful connection will have been made. These encounters aren’t yin and yang, but wholeness seeing and experiencing wholeness itself, fully present, fully alive. That’s a connection unlike anything most humans ever experience, and it’s learned in solitary confinement.