Wednesday, November 4, 2026
It’s not a great temperament to grab, to hump, to claim, and to show people “who’s boss.”
The leash hurts when you pull, follow your own nose, and obsess over “gimme, gimme, gimme.” If that part of you isn’t tame, you’ll continue to feel like a shrew, and the pang of endless craving will gnaw at your neck. However, with sweet gentility and love, you can have treats and snuggles.
Don’t act like you “need” lagniappe. Lagniappe is a Cajun term meaning “a little something extra.”
We rarely consider how off-putting it is when we are aggressive and dominant. Being a responsible “pet owner” means we understand our own animalistic craving is unbecoming. You are parent and child in one. The child craves, but the parent desires the exhibition of love and restraint first and foremost, as the reward itself.
If we are becalming, we embody an attractive nectar. We follow the house rules because order is the order, not pushing ahead for goodies. Lagniappe is not the target.
Treats abound for the becalmed. But that’s not why we do it! Non-reactivity is as good as it gets. Your part is to simply follow the joy of restraint, the peace of submission, and the order of love. That is the prize, but what lagniappe can resist a bundle of joy, eagerly waiting in her assigned place, exuding unconditional love, looking up with sweet, adoring eyes, and behaving like an angel?
If lagniappe is “necessary and essential,” you’re simply untamed and will be quarantined until you stop begging.
Being tame is the highest order. There is no more good after or before; even though goodies often overflow from recognizing this centering richness. The overflow is from the unnamed, not the untamed, although neither are foreign to each other. That’s fullness upon which I cannot seem to place my finger, but essentially know to be my fundamental nature and highest order.