Thursday, May 23, 2024
Negative feelings seem to be coming from what’s assaulting you. Nothing is assaulting you, other than your own mind’s confusion. A conflicted person is afflicted. They are afflicted by an inner unknowing that makes them unconscious of the real trigger. If you think a troublesome person or contentious situation “triggers” you – guess again.
The difficulty in life is realizing your implicitness in what ails you. If you notice Susie being problematic, you’re the one who has converted Susie from a person into “a problem,” an object. A calm person would pay her no mind; but the conflicted person would pay her the full price of their own sanity – the full range of their attentive and emotive capabilities. When the mind is consumed by Susie “the problem,” there’s nothing left. But leave Susie some room to be a person, and there is hope for your recovery.
You can resolve conflict if you first resolve the conflict within yourself. When you let go of Susie “the problem” and replace her with Susie “the person,” all is well. Negative feelings come from you, not to you. Villainizing “others,” the situation, or God is a mere unknowing in you, a trigger point that only appears as external. But the target is in you.
You’re inflicting the pain when you target or label something outside of yourself as “the problem.” Your so-called triggers don’t pull themselves. Every time something “triggers” you, you simply have the gun pointed at your head and you are blaming others for “aiming” at you. Put the gun down, and there will no longer be any more trouble. Resolve a conflict by paying no mind to those you think are causing your pain. You’re the troublemaker, and when you come to that realization, you can be the peacemaker.