Friday, December 15, 2023
There’s a theory out there that says that life never deals you anything that you are not capable of handling. Haven’t you ever felt like the stress and strain of something are more than you can handle? I’ve been there, on the verge of my own sanity.
For years, I avoided being department chair at the university. I didn’t think I could handle it; but I was almost forced to by circumstance. It was rough at first; but then I realized my fear was merely an ignorance of what was involved. The actual experience was not only easy, but boring! It was my concept that was scaring me, and reality was my liberation from the monster.
When I found out my husband was cheating on me, and we split up, it overcame me. The notion of finding a cheating spouse and going through divorce scared me to death. I feared abandonment. I feared humiliation. I feared being in a situation that I couldn’t handle, and my demon met me face to face. Initially, it seemed to push me to my mental and emotional limits. But the only way to know if life never deals you anything you’re not capable of handling is to have to deal with it. You can’t deal with it in concept. In concept it looks like a terrible monster with fangs that will swallow you whole. In reality, as you actually have to face it, experience it, and let it in, the monster dissolves. I suppose the same will happen when we die. I welcome death as I know it will be the ultimate liberation. Our anticipation is overinflated. Reality is our relief. Let’s face it – it’s your concepts that scare you, not reality. Reality is showing you that you can handle what comes to you, and that you can do it quite well.