Thursday, November 23, 2023
Relationships sometimes come to what seems like a standstill, and you lock horns. That’s because you take a stance, and it disguises itself as truth. But life has a way of dissolving standstills in an artful way. Your perception feels like truth, and the other person’s differing perception feels just as true. So who is right? No-one is right.
A solid relationship is one that teaches you, and doesn’t cater to your external desires. A good partner shows you. They show you different ways of seeing the same situation, if you’re keen on understanding how blurry and fungible reality is. Relative truth is conditional, subjective, varying and contradictory, so it’s capable of changing. Absolute truth is consistent and eternal; its meaning is universal and never changing. The way you see a situation is relative truth. In other words it’s interpretive and open.
Your woven story around a circumstance is inconclusive. And your partner’s differing story is also inconclusive; but together, there is a middle point where The Truth sneaks in rather slyly. Therein lies the freedom of The Truth, a beautiful partnership of opposing viewpoints dancing cheek to cheek. Everything perceived as an outward disagreement has a more universal and inward agreement. To get to absolute truth, ask this question: “What am I to learn about this standstill?” Not, “Who is right and who is wrong?” You’ve got to be supple, open, and skeptical of your viewpoint before you see the way forward. Both partners have to be this way. Truth can unstick a situation and set you free if both partners go within. If one is right and the other is wrong, you don’t have absolute truth, you have relative truth. Absolute truth is always in agreement, even if the external situation appears to look different.