Saturday, August 19, 2023
I recently shared a major life change with someone whose immediate reaction was in effect, “What about me?” Isn’t that usual for most of us? Is it all about you? I’m amazed at how much the universe allows us to have it our way. But I’m equally ashamed that I secretly want it my way all the time. But we do have it our way, but only if we can change the way we look at things.
We’re horrible at letting good things (and people) come into and out of our lives freely. When someone we rely on needs to go, we see the ending, the inconvenience to ourselves and protest: “How can I go on without you?” But you can go on because you have to.
An ending seems disruptive, but only if you’re disrupting your ability to see new potential. Be happy for those who don’t stick around. Step back from the immature reaction of “What about me?” and be pleased for them, not disappointed for yourself. A new chapter for one is also a new chapter for you, but only if you allow for the ending to dissolve. New beginnings come from old endings. If your reaction is “What about me?”, then you’ve missed the point, and you’ve stayed on the closing side. Catch yourself! If someone needs to make a change, and it affects you, you have simply forgotten that faith is on the other side of fear’s closed door. You can always be happy for those who need to leave, or for a circumstance that needs to change. Someone or something better will come along, but not if you’re standing on the closed side of the door, blind to the faith hiding on the opening side.