Friday, October 7, 2022
When you make a choice in your life, you’re just trying to figure out what works and what doesn’t. As you experiment with choice, there are some that you have made that have caused trouble for others. There is no way of getting around this. Think about how much trouble you put your parents through, as you were struggling to grow up! Children, just like many adults, are simply trying to figure out life, and that process creates trouble. Remember, being a good human comes with no user’s manual, so you have to give people a chance. Learning the hard way (through difficult situations resulting from poor choice) is actually the most effective way to learn.
When you’re offended, you don’t give others a chance to learn through their own trials. You had the freedom to learn through experience and choice, and on your journey, you probably offended quite a few people. If you don’t think you did, you’re still a troublemaker.
Everyone wants the freedom to choose as they will, and to be forgiven when they make a mistake, but it’s hard to extend that right to others. When you’re offended, you don’t give anyone a chance to grow up. If you want the freedom to make your own choices, and the freedom to discover who you are, stop being offended when others are simply trying to do the same. Each person is trying to do their best, without an instruction manual on what makes a person perfect. So let’s stop causing trouble by being offended so easily by the choices that others make. They are simply trying to figure it all out, just like you are. Life will teach them. Focus on what it’s teaching you and stop getting so easily offended at the choices people make. It’s likely that life is showing them something about their choices, just like you.