Monday, February 10, 2025
There is a decided difference between being tender-hearted and being broken-hearted. I lived most of my life being broken-hearted, thinking that was virtuous. But guilt is not a virtue. Love is.
When my heart broke, it was because I was responding to the wrong voice. The still, small, inner voicelessness is always right, and I’ve come to learn that. The voice in the head is a chatterbox, and the voices you hear outside of your head – those seem to never align with your Truth. What the mind says and what others say seem to contradict what the gut intuits, which is often “Do nothing.”
The voice in the head will always tell you to do something because it looks good to others. You’ll do it so you can boast about it, put it on social media, and get lots of accolades. The voice in the head likes the word “should.” It loves guilt, and it loves for you to have pity on others, to ache for them, and to empathize with their sadness and scarcity thinking.
But the voiceless intuition will always respond compassionately, even if the answer is no from a requisition “out there.” The gut often intuits a response which requires a verbal affirmation of “No.” When you tell someone “No,” that seems to feel guilty to the unsuspecting. But it likely aligns with the spirit. When you comply with the spirit, it responds with grounding, peace, and love. That’s loving kindness. That’s compassion, when you don’t sell yourself, give yourself away, or betray that intuitive voice.
If you act out of guilt, you are responding to the wrong directives and you’ll be broken-hearted. If you comply with your gut, especially if you must say “No,” then you are responding from a place of love. That’s loving kindness, and it will never ask you to betray yourself.