Wednesday, November 2, 2022
A vindictive action doesn’t repay the debt of being wronged by another. The allure of being satisfied by the sinister actions of “getting back” at a lover who jilted you, or cheated on you, isn’t real. If you think you will feel righteous by teaching someone a lesson when they wronged you; that you will feel vindicated when you give your disrespectful boss a piece of your mind; or that you will feel justice if you catch up to that driver who cut you off, and show them your disdain; you are sadly mistaken.
Vengeance is never possible by wronging another, regardless of whether or not they “deserve” it. Every intentionally harmful thing that I have ever done to another, has caught up with me – especially when I’ve tried to even the score. Wrong actions always make you lose points, they never help you get ahead or even the so-called score. The only way to “win” is to forgive, let go, and trust that life will take care of those who wrong you. Let it go, don’t get involved with life’s corrective power. Vengeance doesn’t belong to anyone. There’s no such thing as scot-free.
The only thing a fantasy produces is frustration. The same is true of fantasizing about how “wonderful” winning the lottery would be, or getting that “perfect” lover, etc. Lottery winners often end up destitute, and relationships often unravel. The fulfillment of a fantasy is impossible. But people keep chasing that feeling. Reality will seem to let you down each and every time. The only way to feel content is to be good to yourself, love others unconditionally, and to embrace reality all the time. Hateful or vindictive actions can’t be justified nor will they be satisfying. Put your fantasies to bed. You only get one chance to “win” life, loving the one you’ve got.